ABOUT THE KIDSTUFF BOOK
This expository book is a
smart look at modern parenting. Kidstuff is based on the philosophy and teachings of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikus. The purpose of this book is to help develop parenting tools. Tools that are essential for success in today’s society. Kidstuff teaches non-punitive solutions to well-known challenges. All forms of punishment such as spanking, yelling, blaming, and shaming are replaced by kindness, firmness, structure, righteousness, values, empowerment and respect. The soft-cover book is composed of
eight chapters.
Chapter One:
The Parenting Scale
The Ten Household: Absolute
structure and no freedom
The One Household: No
structure and absolute freedom
The Five Household: Balance
of structure and freedom
Chapter Two:
Discipline VS. Punishment
Knowing the difference between Discipline and Punishment
will put you in the drivers seat.
Chapter Three:
Understanding Your Child's
Misbehavior
The five reasons why kids
misbehave and what a parent can do.
Chapter Four:
Building A Child's
Self-Esteem
Ten things a parent can do
to further a child's sense of self esteem and self concept.
Fun and Easy Activities That Will Help Build Self-Esteem
Chapter Five:
How To Get Your Children To
Cooperate
Ways to get children to do
what needs to be done after saying it only "once"
Fun and Easy Activities That Will Help Promote Cooperation
Chapter Six:
Encouragement
Difference between praise
and rewards. Which one works and which one does not?
Fun and Easy Activities That Will Help Enhance Encouragement
Chapter Seven:
Creating a Responsible Child
Modeling
Accountability: Natural and
Logical Consequences
Fun and Easy Activities That Will Help Increase Responsibility
Chapter Eight:
Conflict Resolution
The Lamb Method
Ways to handle conflicts
Fun and Easy Activities That Will Offer Tools To Help Resolve Conflicts
Most parenting books
offer parents only three or four different parenting/teaching/managing
styles. In The Parenting Scale
we find that one does not need to be
permissive, autocratic, or democratic. One can derive from a seven
household or a three household. I was never too comfortable being
categorized in only three levels. I, therefore, digested the information
from Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs and further developed The
Parenting Scale: From 1-10 Households. After taking the test,
a parent comes up with a score and discovers where he/she may be on the
scale.
This book is unique because
all the suggestions and alternatives that are presented in this book can
be used in all areas of relationship. For example, I use the term
"Children" because I am speaking to Parents. I can easily
substitute that term and use "Students" if I am talking to an audience
of teachers. The term can also be substituted for "Employees" if I
am talking to a group of managers or employers. Once again, the
term can be substituted to "Husband" if I am talking to a group of
wives. Whether parents would like to get their children to
co-operate; whether teachers would like to build their students
motivation levels; whether managers would like to empower their
employees; whether wives would like to enourage and get their husbands to
help out more around the house, then this book is for them. No
matter what the relationship is, these techniques, suggestions and
alternatives will work.
The same can be said
with communication styles or how to handle conflicts. Kidstuff offers
four easy steps on how to talk to someone as well as how to listen. The
L.A.M.B. method can be used in any relationship. One does not need to
have children in order to figure out why people misbehave or ways to
resolve internal or external conflicts. |
